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How To Become The Main Character


Have you ever seen a person who is always the center of attention without even trying? It seems like everything in their life is amazing, and they are in full control of it. This is what social media terms as having main character energy, and you can have this energy. 

What does being the main character mean?

The main character in movies usually drives the plot, and everything revolves around them.

Being the main character is a mindset and a lens through which to see the world that encourages you to take charge of your narrative and life confidently. Many people wish to have this kind of mindset but are confused about getting it; I am here to help.

How do you want your life to be like 10 years from now? Are you shooting your very own film? or are you still wishing to be like so and so?

You must be prepared to make sacrifices and put in the work to get there.

I know exactly what it feels like to be in a constant state of self-doubt and as if you don’t even know who you are anymore. I realized earlier that I need to change this and work on myself and change this narrative.

Here are some tips you can use to become the main character;

Dress like one

The phrase ‘fake it till you make it is often misused, but you have to do it literally in this case. Confidence is easier to achieve when it starts from how you look because it reflects how you feel. If you dress like a CEO, you even exude the CEO’s energy, and you end up feeling more confident.

Let go of negative thoughts.

When you consider yourself a supporting character, you often feel lesser than other people, even if you are at the same level in life. You often hang on to your past failures and mistake, which you shouldn’t. What if I had done this instead? Well, who cares?! Time has passed- you can’t change the past, but you can the present and future.

It would be best if you learned to let go of such thoughts and negative emotions. It may take time, but it’s thrilling once you can do so.

Love yourself

It has been said over a million times now, but it’s still relevant and important; you need to love yourself. How do I do this? You may wonder? You can start here

  • Talk to and about yourself with love
  • Prioritize yourself
  • Give yourself a break from self-judgment
  • Trust yourself
  • Listen to your body
  • Be true to yourself
  • Eat healthily
  • Be nice to yourself
  • Set healthy boundaries
  • Forge yourself when you aren’t true or nice to yourself

You can also simplify it by finding your self-love love language here. 

 It is the one thing that made me happier overall and also brought out the ‘main character’ energy in me.

Realize You create your life

In as much as you sometimes feel like life sucks but know that YOU control your destiny. The main theme in my blog is that your choices create your life, and it can be stressful but freeing at the same time. Choose to be the main character and who will stop you if you believe you are.

When you realize this, you will recognize the power you have in guiding your life heads and what person you become. The only choice that matters stems from you.

Focus on your passion:

Find out your passion and if that’s hard, follow your curiosities, and lead you there. This does not mean ignoring your job or your studies but just creating time for things you love.

We are what we repeatedly do.

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being unbothered and happy

;living your best life

Life is so short

Life really is short so live it like it’s your last day on earth, be the main character, be fun and happy, live it to the fullest. Please write down your bucket list and do it. Pretend you are a celebrity and live like one because why not?

Work on your insecurities:

We all have insecurities, and I pretended not to have them for the longest time, and it worked but not long-term. It is frustrating and can affect your life in more ways than one. Instead of dwelling on them or avoiding them, we should learn how to solve our insecurity issues.

By working on them, you are getting closer to living your best life.


Build connections:

Every main character-type person is well connected. Life is to be enjoyed with people, don’t die alone; there is no fun in that.

Connections give you different opportunities, opens up your life to more experiences and lessons as well.

Be a minor character in others’ lives.

Don’t go trying to control other people’s lives or stealing their shine to get attention on yourself. This will not lead you to the main character mindset you so desire. When the spotlight is on someone else, cheer them on, it will shine on you soon. Have faith.

Be unapologetically you

I have also struggled with this, but once you know who you are, be it. You shouldn’t care what others think of you and only what you think of yourself.

You have nothing to lose by becoming a main character, so embody it.

I hope this helps shift your perspective and makes you become the main character in your life.

Photo by Courtney Cook and jurien Huggins on Unsplash



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